Marriage is Not Like a Car

We are celebrating our 33rd Wedding Anniversary this weekend! (Yes, we were really young when we got married. No, I was not pregnant; we waited four years to have kids.)

Cake topper from our wedding.

Cake topper from our wedding.

When people ask us the secret to a long marriage, we usually joke, “Marriage Counseling.” But there is no secret, you have to take care of it.

Flower girl basket, bridal bouquet, untiy candle, and maid of honor bouquet from our wedding.

Flower girl basket, bridal bouquet, untiy candle, and maid of honor bouquet from our wedding.

Marriage is not like a car that you can trade in for a newer model when it breaks down or starts to age.

Marriage is like a breast.

  1. Only adults have them.
  2. It starts small and grows so gradually you barely notice.
  3. It needs constant protection and support.
  4. It needs frequent examination against the cancers that will harm it. Those cancers can kill you.
  5. If properly cared for, it will nurture your children and be a source of comfort and pleasure for the rest of your life.
  6. The alternative will cost you physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially for the rest of your life.
  7. Investing in your marriage does not require expensive gifts, trips, or dinners out. It requires time. Time to dream, plan, and just touch base.

It’s the best investment you will ever make!


How Do I Love Thee?

Let me count the ways…

There is nothing more romantic than giving your sweetheart a list of everything you love about them. That means you will have to pay attention to the things they do and say to complete the list. When we are dating we study our sweetheart to learn their likes and dislikes. Tastes change over the years and it is a good idea to keep studying our mates.

Last week I recorded a movie that I thought my husband would enjoy watching with me. I was surprised when he said he wasn’t interested in it. But, my son sat down and enjoyed the same humor his father used to like. Maybe he was having a bad day, or maybe he has different tastes now. I need to find out.

Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day and it is not too late to do something special for your sweetie. Just get out a pen and paper and count the ways you love them.

Can’t Buy Love

“On Valentine’s Day, receiving flowers versus a pair of diamond earrings doesn’t mean the romance is over. In fact, it’s a sign you have a healthy marriage. Couples who say material possessions are unimportant to them are more satisfied with their relationships, according to a new study. “They find happiness in each other, not their belongings,” says lead author Jason Carroll, Ph.D.”

I read this paragraph in the February, 2012 issue of Family Circle. I like it because it takes the pressure off. I love Valentine’s Day and I purchased my gift for my husband in December!

But, if you have more love than money, here is an idea – recreate your first date.